Before I go into detail, let me say that this was a topic of interest that I heard from my favorite radio station out here near Philly, WDAS 105.3, and the Michael Baisden show.
QUESTION: Does your significant other have to go to bed when you do?
MY RESPONSE: I do not feel the need to make my SO come to bed with me when I head to bed. Usually we head to bed together but there have been many a times that this wasn't the case. My only request is that if he goes to bed when I do, to put the sleep timer on because it will wake me up at night. I need the tv to go to sleep just not on all night. The funny thing of it all is that if he isn't in bed when I am trying to sleep and is in the house, I can't sleep. If he is not in the house, I will conk right out, no problems at all.
He is a grown man so why would I have to make him go to bed. I think that becomes more of a controlling issue, which can then lead to many other issues. Again this is my personal opinion.
Some callers into the show say it is a trust issue and it is better for the relationship when the couple goes to bed together. Is this really the case? What are your thoughts on this?
P.S. HELP me with coming up with a better title then "The Love Topic", it is HORRIBLE! :)
What a great topic! This is a big one for me. We almost always go to bed at the same time. Yes, there are those rare occasions (maybe once every two weeks) that he stays up a little later playing video games or something. But for the vast majority of the time, we go to bed at the same time. I just love that time of snuggling in bed together. Maybe it's the newlywed phase? :)
ReplyDeleteIt's pretty much of an automatic for us. We really don't ever vary bedtime...it's the same every night within an hour. We watch the big screen in the livingroom until 9. We then go to the bedroom, turn on the tv there and watch it till we fall asleep. We set the timer for 11pm, although neither one of us stays up that late (unless it's the wknd).
ReplyDeleteHe gets up to get ready for work at 4am, and even though I'm unemployed right now, my internal clock is set for that time also, as I got up that early for the last 20+ years of working. Ugh!
We've been together for 8 1/2 years....living together for the last 3 years, and I can't imagine not falling asleep with him next to me. It's never been a rule, or anything we've talked about....it just happened. =)
This is an interesting question! Josh and I usually go to bed at the same time, but there are definitely nights where one of us heads in there before the other. And really, I don't care if we go to bed together. Obviously (and I don't mean to get graphic) if we're going to play Twister that night we go at the same time. But otherwise it doesn't really matter to me.
ReplyDeleteI definitely don't understand the "trust issue" argument. I mean...do you think your partner is going to sneak out and go on a joy ride while you're in bed? I don't think so. If porn is an issue in your relationship then I can see the "trust" argument a little better. That's not an issue for us, though.
Looking forward to more great topics!!
For me, I don't care either way, as long as we sleep together in the same bed. My husband on the other had, HAS to go to bed with me. This causes issues sometimes, because there are lots of nights I'm not tired and he wants to conk out at like 9 pm. Most of the time, he'll just sleep on the couch next to me until I'm ready for bed if he's that tired, then we go to bed together.
ReplyDeleteGreat topic! We typically only go to bed at the same time on the weekend. I work from home and am a night owl, so I'm usually up a few hours later than hubs.
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