The Love Topic... Are you the remote stealer?

Usually it is known that the "man" is the king of the castle and controls such items as the tv remote. For some men this is important to them. It gives them the control that they may crave in a relationship that they may not get otherwise. On the show I was listening to, the men felt as if the women were demasculating the men by being the controller of the remote and insisted that the men were not in control of their relationship and that the women wore the pants in the family.

So my question to you is, are you a remote stealer?

Also, do you see this as a way of demasculating a man?


It's kind of difficult to explain how the remote situation is handled in our relationship. When the hubs is around I usually give up the remote to him. Now, I don't do this because I believe he should be in control of the remote, I am sometimes bored with what's on tv so I willingly hand over the remote to him. The difference between my hubs and some of the typical men is that he returns it right back to me. Some nights it looks as if the remote is participating in a gymnastics competition the way it is flipping in the air back and forth.

My POV is this: when he wants to control the tv, he does and vice versa. So really there is noone in control. Does that mean that he is less of a man because of this? Heck no! He is still the protector of the family and knows when he needs to take control of certain situations.

I think many men live in the past and find it harder to allow women to have control of things they didn't have rights to back in the day. Now, don't get me wrong, there are some strongly independent women who can take it too far and pretty much make the man feel as if they are not needed. I think that is when a situation like this can be a way of tearing a man down.

So what are your thoughts on this?


Note: this was another topic of interest brought up on the Michael Baisden show.